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Sep 9, 2018

Emptying the Nest

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Reposted from October 13, 2015

 

Emptying the Nest

I have been off the grid the last couple of days helping one of my little birds build her own nest.  It is a strange feeling to start entering into the empty nest stage and I'm not sure what it will look like.  We still have one bird in college, so we aren't there yet, but nearly.

 

As I begin this transition there are so many mixed emotions. I feel excited for all of the adventures that are ahead for my kids as well as how my adventures will change.  I feel anxious for things like will they eat well, pay bills on time, make wise decisions, make new friends, enjoy their jobs, be responsible, kind, courteous, give back to society, recycle, brush their teeth... Ok, a little carried away, but you understand.  I also feel sad, I will miss the noise and laughter that filled our home.  I will have to learn to guide without being boss, how to be there and not smother, and so much more, but mostly I am happy to see them become the wonderful people they have become.

It goes way to quickly, here are a few tips to parents of small children, because your empty nest day will be here way too soon:

  • It really does go quickly, enjoy the little moments

  • Let them play in puddles, mud, dirt etc.  They will have a blast and clothes and kids alike can be washed

  • Remember to tell them how precious they are

  • Have family dinners

  • Play games

  • The housework, jobs etc. will always be part of your daily life, but they won't. Prioritize

  • Go camping, even if it goes badly they will talk about it fondly later

  • The teen years do not have to be hard. Develop relationship when they are little

  • The attitude of a 2 year old is the same as a 16 year old.  If you do not hold boundaries when they are 2 you will not be able to when they are 16

  • Be consistent

  • If your kids ask you not to tell anyone something, don't!

  • Laugh a lot

  • If something breaks or spills it isn't that big of a deal.  Clean it up, hug your kid and go on.  They are more important than anything that breaks or any little mess

  • Say I'm sorry when your're wrong

  • Let them be individuals and praise them for the things that are unique in them

  • Give chores from very early

  • Let them handle their own money

  • Let them make mistakes

  • Love, love, love, love, love them

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