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Sep 9, 2018

Dare to be you - Part 3: Accepting the Truth

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In the last post I asked you to ask God to show you the lies that you have believed about yourself and lies that have been spoken over yourself.  How did you do?  Did you see some of the lies? Are you starting to see that it is OK to be you? If so, that is a great start!

Let’s think about Romans 8:1-2, it says that "Therefore there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.  For the law of the spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and death" NASB.  This verse talks to us about being free from bondage and I believe it is bondage to believe Satan's lies.  What purpose do the lies serve?  They serve to keep you from believing God is who He says He is, they serve to keep you from relationship with Him and ultimately if you buy into all of Satan's lies and do not believe in God and believe that you can come to Him through his son Jesus, than it serves to bring death.  That sounds like bondage to me.

 

We have looked at lies and the seriousness of lies spiritually, but I realize and I am sure you do too, that listening to those lies about yourself also serves to bring sadness, failure, frustration, anger, and more.  Let’s change that!  First you have started to recognize the lies, maybe you had to find out there were lies to begin with and then started to recognize them. Next we need to accept the truth and embrace it.

 

Accepting the truth is not as easy as it sounds.  You can know it in your head and not your heart.  That isn't acceptance, it is knowledge and knowledge isn't enough.  I believe part of the ability to accept the truth about you comes from accepting the truth about who we are in Christ.  Years ago I discovered a bookmark by the author Neil Anderson called "Who I am in Christ" and it changed my life.  It started when I started to pray the scriptures on that card out loud.  I would just use the bookmark as a guide and the prayers went something like this:

 

Oh Father God, I praise you that I am your child (John 1:12), it excites me to learn that I have been justified in you (Romans 5;1), Your word tells me that I have access to You through the Holy Spirit (Ephesian 2:18), but I'll be honest I have trouble accepting that is true.  Sometimes it just seems like I don't have access to you.  Please help me let go of the things that prevent me from believing that you are accessible and help me to draw near to you.  And God, If I'm your workmanship (Ephesians 2:10) this worries me.  Help me realize that your workmanship is beautiful and I am an expression of you and therefore it is a good thing.  I know my view is faulty, please help me see clearly.  Because the truth is I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit (John 15:16) and I believe it is good fruit and I praise you  that you would call me to bear your fruit and I thank you that I am complete in you (Colossians 2:10) and  therefore you must look at me, your creation and say "it is good" and where sin has entered into my life to keep me from being "good" forgive me and deliver me that I may walk all the days of my life in your presence and rest in your peace. Amen

 

From this simple daily exercise I began to believe I was secure in Christ, loved by God and filled with the Holy Spirit and I learned to have relationship. But, I still struggled accepting myself for the way I was made outside of who I was in Christ.  It took many years and one day a friend asked me to take a personality test, I thought great! Yet another test.  I was wrong.  This test was very different.  It told me about myself and what truly makes me happy being me, what was right about me, not just what I'm good at.  For me, this test confirmed all of my secret thoughts and likes about myself.  I had it in writing, proof that I was who I thought I was.  Somehow that made it ok for me.  It may be something else for you.  Maybe just me telling you that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and that that is good will be the thing that changes your way of thinking.  It doesn't have to be a specific "thing" or tool that speaks to your heart, just ask God to help you accept the truth about you and to do it in the way that speaks to your heart the most.

 

At the bottom I will give you the tools I have mentioned, but I want you to be open to see what tools God wants to use with you to accept the truth.  Some other possible tools are to practice saying blessings over yourself, speaking truth about yourself, renouncing lies you've spoken and ask God to tell you what he really likes about you!  You may be surprised.  Then I want you to not only accept the truths you are learning, but embrace them.  Be passionate about them. Be a cheerleader for you.

One caveat! Accepting who you are made to be does not give you the right to be a jerk about it.  Remember that it goes hand in hand with who you are in Christ and becoming more like Christ. Ok, got it?  Good!

 

What am I really saying this week? 1.  Satan lies and we have believed the lies.  Satan's biggest lie is to make you think God is the liar. If you believe that, you will not be able to see the truth.  2.  God helps us see the truth and delivers us from the lies  3. Once we see the truth we need to accept it all the way down to our hearts! 4.  Embrace it.

Next time we will talk about embracing your Youness!

Tools:

Bookmark

Truth Statements

Flag Page Test

 

Psalm 139:13-16 tell us “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” 

 

Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations."

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